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Oh, validation, you sweet siren, always sucking me in and making me feel special again…

After my complete failure at the last Author Event, I had extremely lowered expectations about this one. To make it worse, a friend of the Hubby’s popped into town to socialize, so I had to arrive to the shindig all by myself.

I was expecting no one when I called the librarian. She said two people for sure were very excited. By the time I started reading, there were 5 including the librarian (The librarians don’t always come to these things, which is fine. They have lives, but I’m elated when they do stick around). Hubby came late to round it out to an even half dozen. Hey, I’ll take it.

It’s not the number so much that’s important to me. It’s that wonderful question: “So when are we gonna get to read the next book?”

It was barely above zero last night, but these people came to my Author Event specifically to ask that question.  Their only agenda is to find something to read. My only agenda is to give them something to read and maybe make a few bucks doing it.

It’s a simple relationship on the surface. The problem is my delivery system is stunted. I know there are multitudes of other veracious readers out there looking for books exactly like mine. I just need to make sure they can find me. I need to become known to them.

Marketing is my ugly dealer. I only get my fix through her.  It’s a tawdry system.

On the bright side, Milltown Public Library pulled out all the stops on the spread again. Their small village library is on the cusp of a very ambitious (and very necessary) expansion project. If you’ve got some loose change laying around, or maybe a rich old uncle looking to make amends for his wicked life, think about dropping off a few bucks for the cause.

Having never hosted a Christmas party before, I was quite naive about the collateral damage left in its wake. I’m not talking about property damage (We’re Lutherans. We don’t have those kind of fun parties, at least not without copious amounts of beer and Polka music). I’m talking about physiological damage.

First, there’s the complete disregard to anything resembling a balanced diet. This collapse of gastronomic order is exacerbated by the well-meaning guests who leave all of their food behind (because they know what will happen if they bring it home). Suddenly, you’re rationalizing having bar-b-qued meatballs before bed and eating cheesecake for breakfast. “They left all this food behind. I don’t want it to go to waste (as it “goes to waist”).”

Second is the complete exhaustion. You went to all of this trouble to prepare the house for guests. In my case, there was painting walls, moving furniture, and hanging paintings and light fixtures in addition to the usual cleaning-like-you-actually-care chores. So once it’s all over, your body acts like it’s finished some sort of marathon, and you pretty much just drop.

Other than the physical movements required by your employers/customers in order to get paid, there just ain’t a whole hell of a lot of physical activity going on between Christmas and New Years. This condition is perpetuated by the first condition. With all of the leftovers that need to be eaten, there’s simply no need to actually cook anything. And if a dish doesn’t fit in the dishwasher, it ain’t gettin’ washed. My dish drain still has the clean dishes from Christmas in it.

And for those of you who went to the gym right after Christmas, you either left your ill-gotten gain at some other poor sap’s house, or something is seriously wrong with you. Normal people were snuggled up on their couches in the jammies they got for Christmas, yelling at their favorite football team and making fun of the dorky New Year’s Eve Parties on TV (or at some party, trying to pawn off their food to the host in a gesture disguised as generosity, when it’s really an act of self-preservation).

I can totally understand why Americans are fat people, and my take on that phenomena is actually a positive one. We are a culture that shares our affection and generosity of the human spirit with food. Celebrations are characterized by the traditions of certain foods, most of them decadent because the expression of joy is a decadent feeling. In my neck of the woods, it is rude to have someone over to visit without putting out a plate of something (commonly referred to as “coffee”, but there’s usually enough food to qualify it as another meal…oh, and served with coffee).

As the nation as a whole, we’ve been through the ringer this last year. I think we deserved those last couple weeks to party and turn into sloths in a gesture of joy and camaraderie. If nothing else brings us together, the excesses of the holidays will.

My wonderful husband made bean soup from the last of the ham left in the fridge from Christmas. We finished it up last night. I finally went back to the gym yesterday (even though I really REALLY didn’t want to). So I guess things are returning to something that resembles normal. My brain’s finally ready to get back to work. My digestive system may need a few more days to recover from all the rich food. Good thing it’s just the two of us in the house…and there’s nothing flammable around. Take a Tums and have a happy 2013.

It was cold for Christmas. We dipped below zero (Fahrenheit) overnight and managed to crawl into the teens by afternoon. Even though I complain to no end about all the teal paint and decorating accents that our big, ol’ house came with, I’m very grateful for all the new windows and doors that were installed in 1996. The teal counter-tops are less irritating when the house is warm.

I managed to get the light teal walls in the living room/dining room painted. I was going to have my mom help me wallpaper over the water-stained ceiling, but a snowstorm tracked further north than the meteorologists predicted. Sixteen inches of heavy, drifting snow spoiled my mom’s travel plans, so the ceiling only got primed. The husband and I did manage to get a new light fixture up in the dining room. We were unable to remove the old metal plate (years of leaking water had rusted it in), so there is a gap, which is fine because I’ll be able to sneak the bulky textured wallpaper under it without any problem.

The husband and I also managed to get up two large paintings on the plaster/lath walls. Toggle bolts are great, but drilling the holes for them is stressful. It takes a rather intimidating drill bit to do the job, and it’s kind of a mystery what will happen, engineering wise, as you’re drilling the hole. Luckily the smaller paintings and do-dads were light enough to use Command Hooks. Thank you 3M. I survived the experience with only minor injuries. Attempts to man-handle the big painting over the couch produced a golf ball-sized bruise on my bicep. It was fodder for mocking at the the dinner table at Christmas.

So this was the first year my husband and I have hosted Christmas ever. I thought it would be easier than getting up super early and trudging out into the cold, laden with gifts and food, to shlep our sorry butts to two different families in two different states, then battling the weather and early drunk drivers to get home. Even in the advanced age that I have become, I’m still learning things. New lesson: NOTHING about Christmas is easy.

First there was the gift debacle. I’m very opinionated in the fact that I don’t like exchanging gifts for Christmas. I really don’t. Some of it stems from unpleasant memories from my childhood, and some of it just stems from being lazy (and probably self-centered). If you love and are loved, that should be shown in small gestures every single day, not some over-compensating gesture once a year. Enough said. Of course, everyone agreed with me in theory on Labor Day. They changed their minds in practice by Thanksgiving. So we compromised with the $5 dollar elephant gift to be passed out/stolen during the dice game between dinner and dessert. I got another huge holiday candle. They come in handy during blackouts in the summer.

Then came the food issues. I was going to get a smoked ham from the handy-dandy butcher literally across the street. The quality of their product pretty much makes up for having to listen to their refrigerator compressor kick in an out all night long. Then my mom says her and Dad have a leftover ham from a meat raffle, and they want to bring it along with the potatoes. OK, fine. I’ll make Bar-B-Qued meatballs, because we have them every Christmas. First, my husband requests we change “Bar-B-Qued” to “Swedish”. Fine. Then, as he watches me work through my three jobs while painting walls and getting everything ready for company, he decides for me that ham is enough.

So I decide to make a cheese and meat plate, two cheese cakes and a fruit salad. Job #2 runs late Christmas Eve, and by the time I get to the grocery store, I have twenty minutes left to shop. Remember that game show in the grocery store with the shopping carts? Yep, that was me on Christmas Eve.

So, I get home. Husband and I clean until about 11:30 pm. I make two cheese cakes at 11:50. We sit on the couch and listen to Christmas music while licking beaters. We’re in bed by 12:30am.

When my sister shows at 12:45 the next day, she has her assigned salad and a fruit salad. I now have an overpriced pineapple and tasteless winter strawberries in my fridge with no place to go. Oh, and along with a ham and hashbrown bake, my mom hauls in yet another crock pot because, “your father said we couldn’t have Christmas without Bar-B-Qued meatballs.”

As a side note, it must be said that not only has my mom previously hosted every Christmas for at least fifteen years, she’s also a die-hard control freak. This is why, after every meal at an occasion that I host, she does my dishes for me and puts them away, even though she doesn’t know where anything goes. “I put the dishes where they should be. I don’t understand how you find anything in this kitchen.” This means that I will spend the next month hunting for all the stuff she so kindly put away.

In hindsight, I know I got off easy. Our respective families are very undramatic lots. We go through way more coffee than alcohol at get-togethers. We’re all so passive-aggressive, there’s almost no bickering. The cops are never called on us by neighbors. Nobody needs bail money for Christmas. Yet, as the husband and I plopped down on the couch at 6:30 Christmas night and split the bottle of beer left behind, we both felt like we had just finished a decathlon.

So now, winter has officially set in. Three long months of hibernation stretch blissfully ahead of us with its consistently white monotony. Time to snuggle in and enjoy the comfort of each others company. Have a Happy New Year (and Go Pack Go!).